How tight is your bow?

I wish I could try playing several nice bows but ive never had the opportunity other than my nurnberger & some of my teachers bows. I've tried French & wanted to be a French player but I could never develop my grip without having serious pain after only an hour or so of playing. I have really big hands so I don't know if that had anything to do with it. I like the attack you get from French bow but my German grip is coming along ok too.